Monica supports women stuck in a midlife rut in (re)creating a joyful, flowing and meaningful life. My fighting spirit is a great resource to have in my life toolbox. if people are bringing you down they are just big fat ass holes. And I won’t stop until I am through. When I need to keep going even though it’s tough. Don't let people bring you down....enjoy life. So, if you’d like some inspiration to discover and cultivate your own fighting spirit, I offer you…. It seems that I got one ‘biggie’ like that in every decade of my adult life! Marie Kondo, exactly what I want to do for 2015, declutter and get rid of stuff. What worked, what didn’t, and what you need to do differently this time. It adds to my resilience and self-reliance when life gets tough. “Sometimes, life will kick you around, but sooner or later, you realize you’re not just a survivor. My mother always says to herself, when facing a difficulty, “Who’s the boss here—me or this challenge?” She’s experienced hiding under her desk as a schoolgirl when the bombs fell during the war. They knocked the wind out of me, plunged me into unspeakable darkness and despair, and brought me face to face with my worst fears. But we can make a conscious choice to respond in ways that affirm our spirit. Or not. It is more important to have fewer friends and closer relationships than people who intentionally try to bring you down or hurt you because of their own insecurities. Otherwise, they wouldn't be set on bringing you down, understand. So next time someone does you wrong, pray for them and mean it. I know what not knowing how to go on feels like! We've put together the best collection of positive quotations, inspiring stories, and words of wisdom for you. My mother found her way back to her happy nature after the heaviest blows—the early death of her husband, and facing Motoneuron Disease in her eighties. Yet she makes a point, always, to show up, whenever possible, in whatever way she can: to work, to choir practice, to family activities…. It may take several attempts to find your way through. We can choose not to be discouraged, not to give in, not to despair—at least not for too long. The fact that the surgeons were going to cut into my brain—the center of my consciousness, my thoughts and my reasoning, my story and my memories—made my fears a thousand times worse! Please seek professional care if you believe you may have a condition. As I responded to my challenge in this way, I discovered a voice within me that spoke I can do this! She dresses up and puts her make up on. When adversity strikes, we are faced with a stark choice: We can either let it beat us. If that’s not fighting spirit, and truly inspiring, I don’t know what is. Even if one attempt fails, it’s important to keep trying, but keep trying intelligently. … If you’re going through hell, keep going. Fighting is a way of standing up to your inner voice of discouragement and resignation: a decision to show up and do what you can even when it’s tough and you want to give up. I can call upon it when I need it. What’s Your Excuse for Not Living a Life You Love? Though I run this site, it is not mine. ”Why do we fall?” he asks him. You never build that fighting muscle. Daniell. You’re a warrior, and you’re stronger than anything life throws your way.” ~Brooke Davis. When adversity strikes, we are faced with a stark choice: We can either let it beat us. When my father died, suddenly, in my twenties. Know that your ‘failed’ attempts are the stepping stones that will ultimately lead you to where you want to be. She knows that adversity can only really beat her if she lets it. These strategies help me when I don’t want to give in to the temptation to throw in the towel too soon. It's about us. You should try to listen and understand their side but make sure you have boundaries; don't let people intentionally hurt you brcause they don't want to change or deal with their issues. And when she’s too weak to be there in the real world, she’s there online, writing and sharing her beautiful reflections about life. Your stories and your wisdom are just as meaningful as mine. And sometimes we need to let go of the fight, allowing things to happen as they will and going with the flow. Recently, I’ve fought more than ever before—and consciously so: I’ve fought for living the creative and passionate life I am called to live. Then find your fight and stand up again. Or when you need to stand up to the voices inside you that make you want to shrink away and disappear when it’s important to stay, and be seen or heard. Don't let them steal your magic.” ― Brom, The Child Thief That I can be a warrior, as well as a survivor! When I need to stand up for what really matters to me. Perhaps that’s one kind of stubbornness worth cultivating! I learned what I could about my tumor and my surgery. Acknowledging That We’re Not Okay is the Only Way to Make Things Better, Why I’m Grateful for Accidents, Pain, and Loss. Let go of those who bring you down. When I had to undergo neurosurgery to remove a brain tumor, in my forties. Ask yourself what you can learn from your previous attempt. Our experts share wellness advice and life lessons to help you through difficult times. MY BOOK IS AVAILABLE: http://bit.ly/daring-to-take-up-space. My colleagues used to joke that I could be like a dog with a bone. My mother always says to herself, when facing a difficulty, “Who’s the boss here—me or this challenge?” She’s experienced hiding under her desk as a schoolgirl when the bombs fell during the war. That’s a quality and a strength, for sure. Don't let the weak, ugly souls of those kind of people, work their toxin in you...You know YOU ARE a better, stronger and more mature, more dimensional person than they are. It’s an acceptance of what’s happening to you. They say that Rome wasn’t built in a day. When the boy doesn’t have an answer, the father says: “So we can learn how to stand up again.”, Whether you’re a Batman fan or not, remind yourself of this when you’re down and feel like giving up. Sooo, if they put you down, that must mean they're trying to make you think that they are the strong one. What are your thoughts of an older woman sleeping with a much younger man? Prove that you can make your dreams come true, sooner or later you will, don't let anyone bring you down with negative words, pay no attention of what negative people can say. For my professional practice to continue to evolve. That’s one way of not giving up and making it through. And I got alternative health support from hypnotherapy, homeopathy, Ayurveda, and even angelic healing! How do you go on? She is the author of What’s Your Excuse for Not Living a Life You Love?, hosts a local Authors Group and writes about soulful living and change. The story goes that Thomas Edison tried and rejected ten thousand combinations of material before he came up with a workable light bulb. ‘Cause she’s the boss. I hope you’ll find them helpful too! No matter how positive we are, how healthily we live, or how much kindness, generosity, or fairness we practice, sh*t happens. Winston Churchill- Don’t Give Up. When you want to save a significant relationship you’re on the verge of losing. You don't need anyone bringing you down. From the LOVE.EMBRACE.INSPIRE blog: WOW! She lived through leaving her homeland to start a new life in a foreign country. I have a friend who has had a most debilitating, not clearly diagnosed illness for years. Don't let the weak, ugly souls of those kind of people, work their toxin in you...You know YOU ARE a better, stronger and more mature, more dimensional person than they are. Equally, you might not resolve a complex and challenging situation in one day. This was one of my methods for getting stuff done when I worked in the challenging and fast-paced world of management consulting. GET MORE FUN & INSPIRING IMAGES & VIDEOS. This is from the film Batman Begins. The content on Tiny Buddha is designed to support, not replace, medical or psychiatric treatment. We can call upon our inner strength, fight back, and rebuild ourselves. Then try again, using those insights. Insisting and persisting serves me well when life gets challenging for myself, too: I use it to understand what’s going on, find the help I need, and try different ways of responding to what’s happening. So if you’re struggling, too, ask yourself: In what ways, however small, can you keep showing up? And suddenly, we find ourselves juggling more balls than it seems humanly possible to juggle. This is a radical operation, and I was terrified of its risks and what it might do to me. But fighting is called for when something important is at stake: When you need to speak up for yourself (or someone or something that really matters to you). Sometimes all we can do is indeed hang in there and survive as best we can. And I also find that it comes in handy when I want to make changes for the better in my life, but struggle with the unforeseen complexities of, or resistance to what I want to do. For keeping my gallbladder when I developed a gallstone. It is never good to repay evil with evil, for in God's sight it's not pleasing. Yet none of this destroyed her. An inner, maybe quiet, determination to still want to live, despite it all. Pick up free resources on Monica’s website, or get her free ebook How to Know What You Want. And I am speaking to myself as well. (That’s a Chinese proverb!). Otherwise, they wouldn't be set on bringing you down, understand? I’d be friendly, charming, great to work with—but I wouldn’t go away until the work that needed doing was done and people had made the contribution that was necessary. But, it's simply bc they are afraid of who you are. Sending Love to Everyone Who’s Doing Their Best to Heal…, Tiny Buddha’s New Mindfulness Kit: Less Stress, More Peace, How to Stop Obsessing Over What Other People Think of You, How to Stop Over-Apologizing, From a Lifelong Over-Apologizer, 14 Daily Happiness Habits to Adopt Right Now, How to Set Healthy Boundaries and Protect Your Space and Energy.